Desire Isn’t the Problem... It’s the Fuel

Let’s talk about desire.

Desire isn’t good or bad, it’s just energy. Like fire, it can warm you, light the way, or burn you to the ground. It all depends on how you relate to it.

I’ve had times in my life where desire felt heavy, like this endless pull toward things I thought would make me feel whole. Chasing something outside of myself, holding on too tightly to what was never meant to stay... It left me drained, stuck in a loop of dissatisfaction, always wanting more but never feeling enough.

The Buddha called this craving, and it’s easy to see how that kind of desire can trap us. When we’re constantly reaching for things to fill a void, we end up disconnected from the moment we’re in... and that’s where peace actually lives.

But not all desire is like that. There’s another kind, one that doesn’t weigh you down or keep you stuck. This kind of desire feels energizing, expansive, and powerful—like a magnet pulling you toward something meaningful. It doesn’t come from a place of fear or lack, but from alignment.

Think about it this way: desire is energy, a frequency you’re putting out. When your desire is rooted in scarcity—like feeling you’re not enough or that you need something outside yourself to feel complete—it carries a low vibration. And that energy, that frequency, is what you attract.

But when your desire comes from a sense of connection, from purpose, from knowing you’re already whole, the energy shifts. It feels lighter, and it moves in a way that calls in the kind of experiences that expand you.

So maybe the real question isn’t, “Should I want this or not?” but, “Where is this desire coming from?” Is it coming from fear, or from love? From clinging, or from clarity?

I’ve found that when we start asking these kinds of questions, desire transforms. It becomes less about what you’re chasing and more about how you’re aligning. When you let go of the need to control or force, you step into a space where your desires flow naturally, without dragging you down.

What are you desiring right now? And is it pulling you toward freedom... or tethering you to something you’re ready to let go of?

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– Bones